Saturday, 21 March 2015

Proud moments - {March 2015}

There's a lovely little thing that happens every month in the 'Future of Downs' Facebook group. 

We celebrate our children's milestones and share what's made us proud. We do this on the 21st to represent the three copies of chromosome 21 present in Down's syndrome.And there's no such thing as an achievement too small. 
There's a whole lot of love and pride bursting from the members every month - and quite rightly! 
Proud moments happen everyday.  I'll be sharing ours on the 21st of each month. 

This week marks the yearly Down's Syndrome Awareness week and today 21/3 is DS Awareness Day across the globe.  And this year the support has been amazing.  From friends and family, our local community, nationally and internationally the bar has been raised and the goal to raise awareness and celebrate this wonderful global community has been surpassed.  From nation to nation, some of the best known landmarks have embraced the day, illuminating in the colours chosen to represent Downs Syndrome - blue and yellow.  It's an impressive list that includes The Empire State Building, CN Tower Canada, Millenium Bridge Gateshead and Blackpool Tower.  Maybe next year, the list will be longer!...

Empire State Building, NYC

I wanted to lend my support to awareness week this year, but wasn't sure how.  Then a little incident in the supermarket got me thinking and I wanted to show that people with Down's Syndrome - or any disability - are a person first.  They have likes, dislikes, strengths, character, personality, feelings and they make a positive contribution to their local communities and to society as a whole.  Person first language is very important and I desperately want people to see Ella as a little girl, a sister, daughter, friend, mischief-maker, bookworm, the list is endless - she is a million and one things before she is a child with a disability.  A diagnosis, whatever that may be does not define who someone is or what they are able to do.  

My way of lending support was to share a little of who Ella is.  In the days leading up to March 21st I shared a photo a day on the blogs facebook page. 

This is where it started...   
'So this happened last week...
In the supermarket, 
Ella and Lucy in the trolley.
A hand on my arm
Head tilted
'They're so happy and loving aren't they?'
Then she was gone.
The lady was very well meaning, I get that, but she saw Ella and immediately put her in a box. She made assumptions based on her experience and understanding and it made me sad. Sad that she never asked Ella's name and that she referred to her as 'they'.
I firstly wanted to invite her round at bedtime/teatime/anytime things aren't going Ella's way - because like every other child she has a whole range of emotions that she cycles through on a daily basis. She is not just stuck permanently on 'happy'.
Down's syndrome is and always will be a big part of who Ella is. But I have always been determined that Down's syndrome will not define who she is.
She is a million and one things before she is a child with Down's syndrome and I will share some of them with you'...
Ella loves being helpful (most of the time!). Tidying her toys, telling me which clothes belong to who when folding the washing, bringing me wipes and nappies when Lucy's nappy needs changing and I recently found she can turn our tumble dryer on too (not so helpful when it's empty but she was still very proud of herself!). Here she is helping water the plants in granny's garden xx ‪#‎downsyndrome‬ ‪#‎WDSD15‬ ‪#‎adifferentview‬‪#‎TeamT21‬

Ella loves to explore new places. She especially enjoys being outdoors - here she is searching for a Gruffalo...

Just before Lucy was born, I wrote a letter to Ella which included these lines:
"...the challenge of being a big sister is one I know you'll take completely in your stride. And you have so many wonderful qualities to share...
Your fierce determined & independent streak, caring nature and eager desire to learn - all balanced nicely by your contagious sense of fun and a generous sprinkling of eye twinkles and cheekiness.
A girl couldn't ask for a better role model..."
Ella. A sister and a role model. Lucy is most certainly learning from her big sisters determined/stubborn ways and her cheekiness!
To read the full letter, visit:

We've read books to Ella since she was about 4 months old. We still do a book every night before bed and it's still one of my favourite times of the day. Her favourites at the moment include 'Wendy the wide mouthed frog', The Tale of Peter Rabbit, a find the item picture book or her book about nature and the seasons. All children learn so much from books and reading is something I've always enjoyed from being a small child. It's lovely to share stories and books, both new and old with both my girls. Even better that they enjoy them and will quietly entertain themselves with a story (now and again!).
‪#‎WDSD15‬ ‪#‎downssyndrome‬ ‪#‎adifferentview‬ ‪#‎TeamT21‬

People who have Down's syndrome are visual learners. That is why Makaton sign language is so effective - it provides a visual component for learning words, language and communication. It's also true that Ella learns by doing (as do I) and she loves activities such as play dough, baking, sticking, cutting and drawing. For Ella, drawing is a particular favourite - so much so that I need a bag to take home all her creations at the end of her day at nursery!
‪#‎WDSD15‬ ‪#‎adifferentview‬ ‪#‎downsyndrome‬ ‪#‎TeamT21‬

At a visit to a local farm a few weeks ago they had a man visiting with his big snakes, reptiles and spiders. In a room full of adults and children older than her who all refused to have a go, Ella held the tarantula twice, saying 'spider, tickly'. Big thanks to my brother whose holding her - he hates spiders! ‪#‎WDSD15‬ ‪#‎adifferentview‬ ‪#‎TeamT21‬

3 days to go! Hope you've got your odd/silly/lots of socks ready...
Here's our little miss independent...

Almost half of all baby's born with Down's Syndrome have an associated heart defect.
Ella was born with a large ventricular septal defect (VSD) and also had a hole after her fetal circulation didn't close properly after birth called a Patent Ductus Arteriosus.
Both her holes were successfully closed when she was 5 months old at Alder Hey. She remains under the cardiology team at Royal Manchester Children's Hospital and is now having check ups every 18 months.
Handing her over for surgery was the hardest thing we've had to do as parents. She was in hospital for 8 days in total and was discharged just 6 days post surgery. We had a lot of feeding problems before her op and although these weren't magically fixed overnight, we saw an immediate difference in her alertness, her energy levels and her development after her surgery.
                                                     She was a true trouper and she's never looked back...

No introduction needed for today's picture. We are lucky to have two beautiful little ladies who make us laugh and smile everyday.

 Happy World Down's Syndrome Awareness Day 2015! 
Last year during DS awareness week, Ella was featured in the 'Lose the Label' campaign. Stressing the importance of person first language and seeing the person and personality behind a diagnosis, whatever that may be.
I am creative, independent, adventurous, a fighter, determined, bookworm, beautiful, feisty, a sister, daughter, friend, helper, love chocolate, hate having my hair brushed, love jumping, dancer, Mr Tumble addict, learner, funny, lovable, whirlwind.

Happy World Down's Syndrome Day!  I've once again loved the odd sock pictures that have been shared by friends, family and even strangers.  It's such a good feeling to belong to something special, there's a real sense of global community this year which I'm proud to be a part of today and everyday. Wherever you've turned on social media, someone somewhere is sharing, talking about, celebrating Down's Syndrome and wearing the obligatory odd socks, of course! 

Friday, 20 February 2015

{Proud Moments} - February 2015

There's a lovely little thing that happens every month in the 'Future of Downs' Facebook group. 

We celebrate our children's milestones and share what's made us proud. We do this on the 21st to represent the three copies of chromosome 21 present in Down's syndrome.And there's no such thing as an achievement too small. 
There's a whole lot of love and pride bursting from the members every month - and quite rightly! 
Proud moments happen everyday.  I'll be sharing ours on the 21st of each month. 

We've talked about Ella and Lucy sharing a room since before Lucy was even born. The question has always been when will it be the right time??...  Well I finally realised that there probably was never going to be a 'right time' and that it should just be done and we'll see what happens once the change has been made.  

So, with it being half term and me being off work for the week (sleep disturbance less of an issue when I don't have to work!) I made the snap decision to just do it. So, Monday morning I moved Ella's bed into her little sisters room before I could talk/think myself out of it.  I talked it through with Ella first, then she 'helped' me to move her bed, mattress, duvet and all her things down the hallway into her new shared room.  Lots of talking about sharing, signing and reassurance along the way.  Once we had everything set up, she immediately climbed into her bed and asked me to turn the 'light off' (at 10am) which was more than reassuring.  Lucy was taking an interest in proceedings too and was mainly busy twirling round in circles giggling to herself - which I took to be a sign of her approval at her sisters sudden arrival in her room.

Having never done this before, I wasn't sure how to play bedtime... Put them to bed at the same time or follow the normal routine of Lucy first, then Ella about half an hour later?  As it happened, Lucy was still awake at Ella's bedtime but Ella was tired so I put them both in together.  Big fail... Lucy just stood at the end of her cot peering over at Ella in her bed - lots of 'Hallo Ella', squeals and giggles from both of them - not very conducive to a successful bedtime ending in sleep. They are both so good at going to bed and going to sleep, the last thing I wanted to do was create more problems.  So Monday night Ella ended up going to sleep in my bed and I moved her once they were both asleep.  Tuesday onwards bedtime has remained the same as always and there have been no further problems. Ella has been really understanding and super quiet when I take her into her bed after doing her book in my room.  

The other worry I had was would Ella wake Lucy when she gets up in the night? Ella wakes pretty much every night and pads along the hallway to my room, cat and snuggle tucked under her arm.  If I'm working the next day I take her back to her bed so my alarm wont disturb her in the morning but if I don't have to go to work and with Ian being away I generally just snuggle her in with me.  Lucy's had a night time cough this week too (she always gets one when she's teething) so she has ended up in with me a couple of times too - between them both they've probably shared their sleep more with me than each other so far, which wasn't quite the aim! 

I am really proud of how well they (and semi-single parent me!) have adapted to this change.  Lucy has taken it all in her stride and Ella has been really grown up about it all and very quiet when she knows Lucy is asleep.  So far, so good and part of me wishes we had done it sooner.

Now I have to decide what to do with Ella's old room - you know we love a project so watch this space!

Sunday, 15 February 2015

Oh Help, Oh No...It's a Gruffalo!!

Friday was an inset day for Ella, before her half term break starts. With Lucy at her nursery as usual, I had a rare day to spend with just my big girl.
A quick google search for local days out brought up the Gruffalo trail at Delamere Forest. As its only on for another couple of weeks I decided that's where we would go.  So, picnic packed, wellies and waterproofs on we headed for the forest.  
Ella isn't great at walking distances still.  She is physically capable, she just has to be in the right frame of mind to do it.  She will often just sit down, refuse to move, change direction, ask to be carried, crawl, stand still... It takes extra time to go on a walk with her and she needs somebody 1:1 with her at all times (hence why this walk would have been impossible on my own with both girls - even with Lucy in the buggy).

The website said the trail was 1.5 miles but it was hilly, cold and wet and she was exhausted before we had even started so I had to cajole her to keep moving.  This involved some carrying, lots of (dangling carrots) snacks and stops to sit down on tree stumps and benches.  In between the rests and protesting, she did have fun. She ran ahead, ran back the way we'd just come, jumped in the mud, tickled me with a leaf and found some pine cones. She made friends with every dog we met, threw her hat off several times with glee and ate her way through half her lunch.  

As the walk was circular (and I wanted to be back at the car before it got dark), I did cheat and we went the wrong way around, ignoring all the 'This Way' signs along the route.  I hoped the Gruffalo would be towards the end of the trail so going the wrong way we would find him sooner...Good move mummy!  

                                                  It's A Gruffalo!!

Ella actually did really well to walk as far as she did being so tired and grumpy (bad case of end of term exhaustion I think). She was still good company and she loved seeing the Gruffalo and eating her picnic in the back of the car at the end of our walk. She then had a well earned nap on the way home xx
We found The Gruffalo!...

Wednesday, 21 January 2015

{Proud Moments} - January 2015

There's a lovely little thing that happens every month in the 'Future of Downs' Facebook group. 

We celebrate our children's milestones and share what's made us proud. We do this on the 21st to represent the three copies of chromosome 21 present in Down's syndrome.And there's no such thing as an achievement too small. 
There's a whole lot of love and pride bursting from the members every month - and quite rightly! 
Proud moments happen everyday.  I'll be sharing ours on the 21st of each month. 

Ella is suddenly into jigsaws in a big way and can now put a simple 4-6 piece puzzle together by herself. 

And as I've watched her, I've seen her practice and utilise lots of different skills. Problem solving, being focused on a task, picture matching, patience, perseverece, hand eye coordination and fine motor skills. 

My proud moment for Lucy has been seeing her moved up into the toddler room at nursery, along with a few of her friends. She was beginning to rule the roost in the baby room so it was definitely time for her to move on. She's settling in well and making even more friends - she talked about 'Thomas' all the way home today! 

Monday, 19 January 2015

Living Arrows 2015 {3/52}

My East Coast American cousins will wonder what we're all so excited about this side of the pond... 

But we've had SNOW!! 

Not as much as they're used to but enough for a snowman (or two) and a few snowballs. It kept the whole family happy for a couple of hours! 

Lucy has never seen snow before and was a little wary to begin with. And yes, that is a tomato she's clutching - they were supposed to make up the snowmans mouth but we couldn't prise them out of her little hands... 

Living Arrows

From week 4 of #livingarrows, the weekly posts will be hosted on sister blog 'Lulu and The Bean'

Monday, 12 January 2015

Living Arrows 2015 {2/52}

This weekend I got to spend some time with just Ella while my mum looked after Lucy. An adventure with my big girl...

Her nursery had organised a trip to see 'We're going on a bear hunt' at The Lowry theatre. So we left the house early and headed to the tram to meet her friends. I have to confess this was what I was most excited about! Despite having lived in Manchester for nearly 15years I have only ever been on the tram once and that was just a quick hop across the city centre. To now be able to get a tram from South Manchester to Salford Quays is amazing. And Ella would have been more than happy to just sit on the tram (maybe we'll save that for another day!) she loved looking out of the window and pointing things out. 

It was really windy, cold and wet on Saturday and Ella was really good on the whole but had a little bit of a meltdown on the platform before we set off. The wind was so strong and I don't think she quite understood what was happening or where we were going. Other than that she sat well on the tram, listened really well to my instructions throughout the day and sat and got involved in the play for pretty much the whole hour it was on. I hadn't taken the pushchair with me as I knew the walking was short distances but it's still a gamble with Ella and what mood she's in! She can just decide to sit and not move/lie down/drag on your arm and not walk properly or just demand to be carried (not good for my back now she's so big). Thanks to Cath and Charlotte for helping me with hand holding, swinging and words of encouragement to Ella! 

Living Arrows

Thursday, 8 January 2015

Unexpected Thanks

I used to think I was a pretty organised person. As the years have progressed and I now have more responsibilities (and less time) I am slowly coming around to the realisation that how organised I think I am and how organised I actually am are two completely different things... 

And at Christmas I pre-empted my state of disorganisation and decided I didn't have the time (or the energy) to write and send Christmas cards this year. But I didn't want to do nothing so I chose to make a small donation to a charity instead. 

Knowing that there were lots of families across the country with a child poorly in hospital I chose to donate to Ronald Macdonald House Charities.  Ronald Macdonald House provided us with the facilities to stay close to Ella when she had her heart surgery at Alder Hey and when she was poorly afterwards.  I will never forget that week as long as I live and will always be thankful to the whole team at Alder Hey who looked after us and so many families that we know.  It made such a difference knowing we had a room, space to talk and (for me especially) somewhere to go, as I found being with Ella on ITU particularly hard.

It's never easy having a poorly child, but it's somehow even more difficult at Christmas.  We are lucky that we had both our girls healthy and home with us, which was unfortunately not the case for so many families. As Christmas approached, my thoughts were with all the parents and children that RMHC was helping. The charity that enables families to be together whilst continuing their great work providing 'A Home away from Home'. 

So I gladly donated my £25 and didn't really think much more of it. Until today when I received a personal and handwritten thank you card from the charity...

It's made my day!

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