Saturday, 20 April 2013

'Baby'

So, for a while now we've been trying to get Ella to understand that there's a baby in mummy's tummy... Lots of bump pointing and stroking, saying and signing baby.

She's not really shown a lot of interest to be honest and I figured that she'd soon work it out once the baby is actually here (hopefully!...)

Then this week, with no prompting, she came over to me as I stood in the kitchen, put her hands on my tummy then did the sign for baby and said 'bay'. She then toddled off back to her toys doing the same.

I don't think she fully understands what's happening just yet, but it's a good enough start for me!

I just hope she (and I) cope with her transition from our baby to our big girl, but that's a whole other post xx



Saturday, 13 April 2013

Shifting Perspectives 2013

As I mentioned earlier in the week, we've been very busy lately.  One day trip in particular was a special experience and deserves a post all of its own.  

We took the train down to London (which Ella hated for the first 10 minutes of the journey - really crying, saying 'gone, gone, no, no'.  At one point she even resorted to signing 'sleep' and saying 'night-night'. We managed to calm her with her crayons and her favourite snack of popcorn and dried apricots and then everything was OK and she actually enjoyed the rest of the train ride...much to the relief of the people sat around us I'm sure!).  

We combined a visit to the Southbank with the opportunity to catch up with family and friends who live in London.

The reason for our day trip was this...

Since 2005 a collective of photographers have explored the potential for photography to change perceptions and challenge people's understanding of Down's Syndrome.  

The outcome of this pioneering idea is the 'Shifting Perspectives' exhibition - a showcase of many thought provoking and beautiful pictures all showing that people with Down's Syndrome live, love, work, play and are able to contribute to their communities and society as a whole.

The exhibition has been shown every year since it began at the Oxo gallery on the Southbank in London.  Not only is this a prominent exhibition space with plenty of passing people, it also allows the work to be presented to people who may not know a lot about Down's Syndrome and who may not have set out that morning (or any morning) to learn more about it. 

I have visited part of the exhibition before as a few of the pictures were touring at Leeds University which coincided with my brothers graduation last year.  However, as it is the last year the exhibition is going to be shown at the Oxo and as it was being exhibited in its entirety, we decided to take the opportunity for a day trip.  

It was lovely and I felt very proud to have Ella with us too.  

The weather was still wintry despite it being March and the walk from Waterloo Bridge to the gallery along the Southbank was freezing! So we decided to warm up and went for lunch before heading into the exhibition.  Ella delighted us by showing off her self-feeding skills (we know she can do it - nursery tell us so!).  She shared my spaghetti bolognese and I reckon she ate more of it than I did...





We visited on a Sunday, just after lunch and found the exhibition halls very quiet, although we hear that it had been extremely busy during the week and that the preview evening was packed.  As you walked into the gallery space, this was the picture that greeted you (I took this at the Langdon Down DSA headquarters at a conference last year)...

'365 by Richard Bailey' - a montage of 365 children who represent the 1-2 babies born everyday with Down's Syndrome

The picture was at low level and Ella loved it.  She kept going back to it and you could hear her from around the gallery saying 'eye', 'nose', 'mouth' as she pointed to each face.  I was quite pleased it was quiet as Ella was rather loud and enjoyed running through the gallery spaces. We met up with both my brothers Tom & Henry, their other halves Vicki & Izzy and our friend Stewart at the gallery -  I was extremely grateful for the extra hands to help chase after Ella!





We took the opportunity of having us all in one place to get a family photo (thanks again Stewart)... Keeping Ella still was more than a little tricky - she's now in training for Tom & Vicki's wedding in September, hopefully we'll make progress (otherwise look out for the blur on all the photographs!)...

'Put me down....!'

It was strangely emotional walking round.  The wide range of pictures, words and stories on show were very thought provoking - probably more so to a parent of a child with Down's Syndrome, like me, than the general public...A glimpse of other parents fears, their hopes, experiences, photo's from the workplace, daily life, weddings, families, children with their siblings.  And the wonderful 'Safe Haven' images showing mums-to-be, all with a pre-natal diagnosis of Down's Syndrome (including our friend Emma who is mum to Henry).  

Looking at the pictures helped re-affirm that I am right to have hopes, dreams and high expectations for Ella - and I have absolutely no doubt that she'll have her own too!

The exhibition was manned by a representative from the DSA and, as the gallery was so quiet, I was able to hear some of the questions that people passing through were asking.  The two I remember are 'How does Down's Syndrome happen?' and 'Is there a cure?.'  The responses were factual and thankfully from someone who obviously knew what they were talking about.  However, it made me realise that the general public are very unaware of the basics of DS -  what it is (three copies of chromosome 21 in case you didn't know!), how it happens, why it happens or who it happens to.  I couldn't help but feel uneasy. If people wandering into a gallery are asking these questions then how are mums-to-be expected to make decisions regarding ante-natal screening?  Anyhow, I digress...

We bought the Shifting Perspectives book a while ago after I had enjoyed the iphone app so much (links later).  There was one selection of photographs that for some reason stuck with me after I first saw them... 'The Facts by Emer Gillespie'.  

A clinical textbook given to them as new parents by health professionals that laid out in bullet points the physical features of Down's Syndrome is transformed by their beautiful daughter into a visual representation of each feature (some she has and some she doesn't - like all people with DS not every feature is present)... 


Her epicanthic folds, singular palmar crease, nuchal fold.  But it's the child in the photo that captures me - the beautiful smile, vibrant red hair, fair skin and freckles.  All the little things that make up who she is - as her mum puts it - 'Laoisha is a million other things besides being a child with Down's Syndrome.'  And I guess that's exactly what I want for Ella - people to see her first and not the fact she has Down's Syndrome. 

Another favourite part of the exhibition was, what we have now called, the 'doodle room'.  Lester Magoogan is an artist who produces humorous, evocative and simple line drawings and was the first person to receive the 'Princess Diana Memorial Award'. He also has Down's Syndrome.  

In the middle of the room where his artwork was on display there was a table. And paper. And pens.... Cue some good fun (and a bit of mess)!...



Yup... she ate the pen...



'Star'


We really enjoyed the exhibition and I'm glad we made the trip to see it.  Shifting Perspectives will soon be touring and you can find out more about where it will be and when on the Down's Syndrome Association website


There is also an ipad/iphone app which is free and contains a good selection of the photographs in the collection.  You can find it in the iTunes store or visit the exhibition webpage:


And if you want something for your coffee table that you can pick up and browse through then there's now also the Shifting Perspectives book which you can find using your favourite bookstore:


We were all ready for a coffee and headed back down the Southbank and landed at the British Film Institute.  My cousin Rachel and her family came and joined us.  It was lovely to see them all and meet baby Adam for the first time... Stewart, Ian & Tom did a great job at keeping the toddlers entertained, with the help of some props and snacks...

 

All too soon, it was time to head for home.  I even got some quiet time on the train....


Another busy weekend awaits, have a good one everyone xx


























Wednesday, 10 April 2013

Catching up...

So the last few weeks have been very busy.  Hardly a spare date in the diary - we've crammed lots in! Family, friends, travel, celebration, decorating as well as preparation for our new arrival. 

I feel my biggest achievement of the last few weeks was attending my own baby shower...Let me explain...  

A baby shower was never something I thought of when I was pregnant with Ella until it was time for me to leave work and my colleagues very kindly organised one for me - Christmas afternoon tea at a local hotel.  It was lovely... so I believe.  I missed out due to being in labour (37 weeks to the day).  The midwife who triaged me at the hospital when I arrived with contractions 3 mins apart and in quite a lot of pain commented that she thought (this being my first) that I would make it to my baby shower... then my waters broke (narrowly missing her shoes). I was already 5 cm dilated and Ella was born 3 hours later.  

So, having missed out last time, I organised an afternoon of tea and cake, but planned it early enough that I wasn't risking missing it again. And my lovely friends bought me wonderful gifts, had raided my mum's photo albums for pictures of me as a baby and put together some great games (Big thanks and a special mention to Lynne and Suzanne xx).  Having Ella there was very special too. The tea, cake and company was excellent. 
Thank you to everyone who came xx



Amusingly, Ella won this!









We've had major upheaval at home due to decorating our living room and dining room.  The transformation has been worth it and it's been a rewarding process as we've done everything ourselves (apart from the plastering and windows).  Ella's coped well with the upheaval and is enjoying having the downstairs space back again.  


Before...

During... 



After... Still a work in progress but we're getting there...



Ella is now confidently walking, has a new found love of dancing and her fierce independent streak is becoming ever more apparent.  However, independence alongside her lacking sense of danger makes for quite a few tantrums - top of the list at the moment is her refusing to hold our hands when walking outside...Trying to get her to wear her backpack/reins is also a battle of wills!


This was accompanied by lots of head shaking and 'no,no,no's'!

We had a lovely trip to the Lakes to visit Ian's Uncle and Aunt and managed to find a small amount of snow on a hill for Ella to have her first taste of sledging...


Not sure she was too impressed or sure!... She enjoyed the rest of the walk though and amazingly for her kept her hat on (knitted by Granny) the whole time...


Ella has also had her first educational psychologist assessment and we were pleased to hear that she's performing well in all areas of her development.  We've had a dilemma as whether to leave her in the mainstream nursery she's at now or to move her in September to the local resourced nursery that caters for children with additional needs.  It's a decision I've been reluctant to make as I love the nursery she's at now and know they have been wonderful with Ella.  Following the assessment, her additional needs compared to other children her age are currently minimal with just some 1:1 time working on speech and language recommended.  The educational psychologist was very positive about the nursery setting and has helped us to make the decision to keep Ella where she is for now and possibly move her for her pre-school year.

Other things we've been up to include.... Playdate with Ella's fiends Daniel & Rosie at the local soft play centre...



Lots of play and exploration...


Plenty of cheekiness!...


More of that independent streak...
And a day trip to London (more on that very soon)...




Have a lovely week everyone xx








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